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November 30, 2018

4 Ways to Improve Your Relationship with Your Wardrobe*

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While some people naturally have a love of fashion and picking out an outfit for the day ahead comes naturally to them, for many others, clothes can be a difficult situation to navigate and their relationship with their wardrobe can sometimes be complicated.

The clothes we wear have a tremendous ability to impact our wellbeing and our confidence, they are a way to express who we are and our personalities. We all want to feel our best, but it can be difficult to feel this way about clothes sometimes due to various hangups we may have surrounding our outfit for the season.

Here are some ways to improve the relationship with your wardrobe:

Get a sense of which styles most flatter your body

Not all clothes will fit equally well on all people. We all come in different shapes and sizes so finding what works best for your figure is key. There is an art to identifying the right garments, cuts and fabrics to flatter your body shape and once you know what works it can improve confidence, make you feel more comfortable, saves money and even enhances your shopping experiences as you will know what to look for.

TM Lewin's guide to women's shirt sizes is a good starting point to get you thinking about different shirt sizes and style to flatter your physique. Something that myself has struggled with to find a shirt that doesn't look like it is swallowing me whole or ones where the buttons undo themselves from being too tight. For example, women with an "apple" shaped body will suit a more loose fitting blouse style skirt. A classic curvy hourglass figure, on the other hand, is likely to suit a more fitted or semi-fitted style shirt, that tapers in at the waist.

Some of this is going to be a case of personal experimentation. Have a shopping day to yourself and try out as many different types of clothing, different fits and styles to see what works for you, what makes you feel amazing in, what shows off the best version of yourself. I have done this myself quite a lot before and not only is it good for being able to go at your own pace and take your time having a thorough look, no judgements from other people's opinions, you can discover clothes that look amazing on you that you didn't originally think would and is also good for finding things aren't suited to you which isn't a negative thing. I think it is good for developing self-awareness. You know what works for you and what doesn't and that is an empowering thing.

Take a "quality over quantity" approach

Those who are unsure about their relationship with clothes, may take the "quantity over quality" approach to clothes shopping. I've definitely been guilty in the past of this of treating clothes shopping as a bit of a chore. Thinking I instantly need a new top or jeans etc and being like 'yeah those are relatively inexpensive and look like they'll fit, that'll do" only to discover in a few months that it was a complete waste of money for things that are ill-fitting on me or things I just don't wear often enough. Don't get me wrong, if I can get clothing I like relatively inexpensive I will be happy but buying in excess without really taking my time to find what suits me and doesn't means I was pretty careless with my wardrobe.

If you're trying to develop a more meaningful sense of your own personal style, it may be an idea to switch to a "quality over quantity"approach, where you buy fewer clothes but ensure that the clothes you do buy are well fitted and make you feel comfortable in them. Something over the years I'm starting to get better at. Yes it may be a case of spending a bit more money but having a handful of flattering, high quality outfits in your wardrobe that you feel amazing in and as the long as the cost per wear is good then it's worth the investment.

Step out of your comfort zone and experiment with your style

Sometimes we never really explore the world of fashion too much or expanding our horizons in the fashion world because we either stick to what we know that already works, we're not sure of our style or we don't want to step outside our comfort zones.

Of course, don't force yourself to wear clothes that you don't like and wouldn't wear out in public but there is a new found confidence that comes with daring yourself to try something different, maybe its a colour, texture or pattern, maybe its something that shows off a part of your body: legs, stomach, arms or chest, maybe you normally wear jeans all the time and you want to wear a skirt or dress. Go for it! Give it a try. Stepping outside your comfort zone can be necessary in order to expand your horizons both in terms of every day and personal style

Consider getting friends, family or your partner, to help you shop

While I personally enjoy shopping alone for the most part, others may not feel the same way and I admit there are times where I could do benefit with a second opinion. An easy solution to this might be to go shopping with someone you trust, who will be patient, who will be both helpful, ego-boosting and constructive or as I like to refer to it as someone who is your best and worst critic, when they say something looks good on you, it looks amazing on you, when something doesn't suit you, actually tell you straight but be able to tell you in a way without crushing your soul on your shopping trip. If physically having someone there seems stressful in itself, perhaps sending a photo to someone you trust (Snapchat is a good app for that btw!) and get feedback that way.

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  1. I could not refrain from commenting. Very well written!

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