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January 12, 2020

My Goals For 2020

In previous years on this blog, I have usually had a long list of goals that I want to achieve throughout the year. However, towards the end of 2019 when the 'decade challenge' was circulating the social media channels, I found myself comparing and beating myself up over all the incredible achievements others around me had done and I felt like I was a failure for not being on that level myself. The whole comparison game completely put me off setting any sort of goals. I realise now it was a terrible mindset to be in and that everyone is on their own paths and to be more accepting of where I am at.

I decided to take some time out to get myself in a more positive frame of mind before I figured out my goals for the year, which is where I am at now. I've decided to be much kinder to myself this year and made the decision not to give myself such a long list of goals to achieve and instead focus on a more concise list. Here are my goals for 2020:

Put Myself and My Feelings First

I've come to realise how much I have been going out of my way to keep other people happy, carrying the weight of everyone else's feelings, problems and emotions on my shoulders and finding that I hadn't been thinking of how mentally it was effecting me. I've sadly come to realise that some of these people expect this from me, however when I've needed someone, they haven't been equally there for me. I've spent the longest time putting other people's feelings before my own, getting myself stressed out, feeling anxious and putting myself in anxious situations and getting worked up over it and for what?! To feel completely deflated from it all and come away feeling so frustrated at myself for not just putting my foot down. I'm all for being there for people as and when they need me but there comes a time when it all gets a bit too much. I've found myself being wracked with guilt whenever the thought of putting myself first comes to mind. Mentally telling myself off for even considering doing so. All the while there are others out there who bring so much negative energy, who get away with being horrible and rude and I'm fed up of being the one who suffers because of it. There's one rule for them, one rule for me. The same types of people who get applauded for such awful behaviour while the rest of us are treat like doormats, an easy target or made out to be the bad guy the second we take a stand against the bullshit.

Last year it really took its toll on me and I'm annoyed at myself for allowing me to get to that point. I was left completely drained and I'm sick of both feeling and being made to feel guilty about wanting to put myself first. This year I'm staying in my own lane and not letting outside opinions get on top of me as much. I'm taking a stand and putting my wellbeing as top priority.

Take Better Care Of My Health

Especially over Christmas when I was particularly unwell, it's really made me start to realise that I need to pay more attention to my physical health and take much better care of myself than I have been. Eating better to combat my GERD, gentle exercise and stretches and getting myself outside more often.

Make At Least 5 Sustainable Swaps

After being exposed more and more to how much we are impacting the planet, I've been wanting to try and live a bit more sustainably. I began last year with reducing my spending on clothing, which was my biggest vice and focused on buying less and trying to buy more secondhand where I could. So far I've done well with keeping this up. I also started to offset my carbon emissions for travel and invested in metal straws, the latter has been a staple in my every day life ever since.
This year I want to continue this on and pick at least 5 other items that I want to swap out for more sustainable options. I'm going to look at items that I personally use regularly and find wasteful to me and find better alternatives to them. Ideally I'd like to aim for more, but I've chosen 5 as a target to get started with to not overwhelm myself. So far this year, I've began with using reusable cotton pads instead of face wipes and investing in a plastic free razor. My aim throughout 2020 and beyond is to set myself this challenge to make these small changes, step by step and do my little bit for the planet.

Solo Travel

Last year after I came out of a 5 year relationship, I decided to finally cross some of the European cities off my bucket list and bit the bullet to solo travel to those places. It was an incredible experience and one of the best things I've ever done. It really made 2019 hold some of the best memories and moments for me. I have already planned one of my adventures for April but I still have a few more places I want to explore so I'm hoping I can do that this year. Funds depending of course!

Record A 1 Second Everyday: Video Diary

You will have probably heard of this app already but every year I see Youtubers posting these videos and every year I tell myself I will make my own and never do. It's a new year and a new decade so I'm setting myself the challenge to finally make one. So far it's going well and I'm looking forward to seeing the final result at the end of the year and sharing it on my Youtube channel. To have a go yourself, download the app here.

Thanks for reading! <3
What are your goals for 2020?
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